Becoming Mama Bear

The transition into parenthood didn’t come easy for us—note the intensely tired eyes!

When you first welcome your little one into the world there’s an insane shift…of priorities, sleep…and hormones, ha! You’re 100% responsible for this tiny human and there’s no manual. It can be downright terrifying, especially if you’re the type of person who likes consistency and having a predetermined plan — anyone else out there besides me?! Truth: the transformation into mama bear didn’t come easy for me.

We welcomed our little guy into the world a month early. He was tiny but healthy so we were filled with gratitude. Bringing him home, we began to have issues with breastfeeding, reflux and colic…it wasn’t until he was a year old that we made it through the thick of those issues. I have to tell you, I felt like I had no idea what I was doing for that entire first year. Everything felt new and uncomfortable and different than I had anticipated. I didn’t like the medical options in front of us. The recommendations from countless sleep blogs didn’t work. Our little guy was a screamer, he was obviously uncomfortable despite us trying everything. My partner and I felt like fish out of water, losing each other, our sleep…our minds. I felt the opposite of an empowered mama bear.

Then enters a life-changing turning point into this new mama’s story. We started using essential oils in our home. First by diffusing them for aromatherapy and emotional support — boy I needed that in a real way. Then we started using them topically for relief of everyday things that come up. My self-care rituals increased (warm baths with Epsom salts, essential oils and sugar scrubs) and I felt more in tune with this new body of mine. With the targeted application of a specific essential oil blend, my hormones finally began to balance, my sleep (while still not great) improved significantly. I was seeing results with myself and decided to start using these amazing essential oils on my son, Jasper, and my husband, Jeff, both with great success. We started tackling digestion issues, muscle aches, sleep support, immune support and even allergies. They were such a game-changer for me, such an empowering tool, I finally felt like the mama bear I knew I could be with this new lifestyle change. I no longer feel trapped by the options in front of me as I now have a new tool in my tool belt of wellness. I love having safe, natural, alternatives that save me time and money and don’t come with a list of terrifying side-effects. One could say I’ve “really geeked-out” about them, it’s really become a passion! I’ve fallen so much in love with these oils that I now teach classes to others about how to use them to care for the entire family, safely and effectively.

This photo pretty much sums up my motherhood experience — messy but so full of love.

This motherhood journey has challenged me in so many ways, there have been so many tears, so many joyous moments, so much sleep deprivation that when I look at myself in the mirror I see that this journey has shaped and molded me into a person I am proud to be. Those baggy eyes are because I tend to my son each night due to his sleep apnea. Those little crows feet that landed near my eyes are from laughing so much every single day, and even from the crying. This soft belly is from growing my precious human. These are my badges of motherhood. There’s no way I could go back to being the woman I was before my son, and that’s a good thing. I’m filled with a deeper compassion and empathy than I ever knew and feel like I’ve really sunk my teeth into something huge and meaningful and life-changing not only for my family but for others. I’ve never felt so “in the flow” with my life. That’s not to say things are easy, oh goodness no, opposite in fact, I’m challenged daily. I mean to say this motherhood journey has shifted my perspective and unleashed a strength I never knew I had within — it wasn’t easy, it isn’t easy, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I want to put an open invitation out there for you to learn more about essential oils. Maybe you know someone struggling and needing emotional support through this parenthood journey. Maybe you want learn about sleep or immune support for your family. Maybe you want to learn about creating an income from home while caring for your littles just by sharing this passion with others. Whatever it may be, you’re welcome to reach out to me. This speaks to my heart. If this reaches just one mama in need and helps her through her transition into becoming the empowered mama bear she is, my heart will be happy.

You’re welcome to email me for more information, to meet up, to chat, and to learn more (aktalbot@gmail.com). Or come with an open mind to my next class. It’s a good one! I’m partnering with the amazing TEAMS Learning Center for a fundraiser on June 1 to teach two classes focused on kids and essential oils. We’ll be in the Adult Learning Center behind the main building. There are two times available so pick whatever works best with your family’s schedule: the first class starts at 5:15 p.m. The second at 6:45 p.m. and will last an hour each. TEAMS is offering childcare from 5-8 p.m. at their regular rate of $20/child. Half of all proceeds from our event will be donated to TEAMS Learning Center, a nonprofit, early-learninng center focused on child development ad success.

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